| -link"> | | | | exercise and a healthy diet — the kind of glow |
| | | | you get from the advice you find in our Beginners |
| If you’re sending out seductive signals of | | | | Guide to Bodybuilding. |
| availability, rather than playing channel ping-pong with | | | | Compliments: Deliver them — but always with |
| the remote, he’s more likely to respond by | | | | sincerity. We all like to be affirmed, and this goes both |
| carrying you off to the bedroom. | | | | ways. If someone affirms us, gratitude for the |
| Your Smile: Sociology research rates smiling people as | | | | compliment helps the giver feel they had a good |
| more attractive than unsmiling people. The smile is | | | | effect. If you want him, give him feedback. |
| central to non-verbal communication. In infant | | | | Authenticity: Be yourself. The real you is loveable but if |
| development the smile, which is part of a | | | | you’re finding it hard to believe, ask someone |
| carer’s besottedness with an infant, lights that | | | | you know loves you to tell you what it is about you |
| little baby like a light bulb. Even though we are no | | | | that they love; then focus on those areas when |
| longer babies, how we look at each other remains | | | | targeting your man. |
| important throughout our lives. | | | | Mystery: Leave a little to his imagination. Give him just |
| Eye Contact: Making, and holding eye contact for two | | | | enough info to want to know more. Remember, his |
| to three seconds is your strongest signal of interest in | | | | evolutionary genes have pegged him as the hunter |
| the other person. Although men are not hardwired to | | | | and you, the prey. Over-sharing may also suggest a |
| read a woman’s first signal so she may need | | | | level of intimacy he is not yet ready for. |
| to repeat it two or three times. When she finally grabs | | | | Spicing up a Long Term Relationship |
| his attention, she will often use the eyebrow flash | | | | If you’re no longer single and your hunting |
| — a subtle eye widening gesture that tells him | | | | ground is the lounge at home rather than a lounge bar, |
| the signal was for him. | | | | try the following. |
| Touch: Body language experts say that touching a | | | | Re-focus: Women who’ve been married for |
| man lightly on his arm during conversation is a strong | | | | some time and had children may have lost their self |
| indicator of your interest in him. It should almost appear | | | | confidence because their bodies aren’t what it |
| accidental so that if he doesn’t share your | | | | used to be — they may believe they’ve |
| interest, there’s no awkwardness. If he | | | | lost the art of seduction. If this is how you’re |
| doesn’t move his arm, do it again to indicate | | | | feeling, turn the focus on him. Rather than worrying |
| that it wasn’t an accident. | | | | about your sagging breasts or flabby tummy being |
| Body Language: This is a whole science in itself, but | | | | exposed during intimacy, suggest you give him a foot |
| generally a woman’s most effective weapons | | | | or back massage. Warm the oil, take his clothes off |
| of sensuality including hair tossing or flicking, wetting her | | | | and massage with long, deep strokes. Once |
| lips and soft pouting, tilting her pelvis and pushing out | | | | he’s relaxed and in the moment, ask him to do |
| her chest, and glancing sideways over her shoulder. | | | | the same for you. |
| Also widening her eyes — evidence shows that | | | | Set the scene: The first rule of seduction is to turn off |
| men are more attracted to women with a child-like | | | | the TV. Infuse the room with lovely smells; use an |
| face (large eyes, small nose, full lips), because these | | | | aromatherapy oil burner, a scented candle, a log fire |
| signals evoke paternal, protective feelings in most men. | | | | piled high with dried rosemary or pine cones. Play |
| Good Health: Exercise, pampering, taking care of your | | | | music that generates feelings of warmth and |
| health stimulates blood flow, hormonal levels, smells, | | | | contentment, rather than jarring sounds that unsettle |
| etc, the effects of which we are not conscious of, but | | | | the nerves. |
| which make a world of difference to our | | | | Be alone: It is absolutely essential that married couples |
| attractiveness. Evolutionary biologists pinpoint good | | | | take time off from the children, even if it’s just |
| muscle tone, clear eye, and a curvy midriff as being | | | | one night a month. If you used to go out for dinner, |
| high up on early man’s shopping list. We | | | | before the children were born, do it again. It |
| suggest clean, shiny hair; a clear skin; a body | | | | needn’t be expensive. |
| that’s bursting with energy from regular | | | | |